Spiders and Dragons
Call me an old fashioned guy, call me a romantic, call me a guy that wants nothing more in life than what now seems to be regarded as a series of clichés.
Comments are not solely aimed at a guy and girl relationship. The basic concepts, I hope, apply to all relationships.
For the moment I'll be lazy, these are some of the things I like, in no particular order (excuse the poor grammar).
- Having someone to care for
- Having someone that cares for you
- Knowing that out there someone is thinking about you
- Having someone in your life more important to you than anything else
- When your mind wanders it wanders to that someone
- White picket fence would be cute
- Raising a couple of nice kiddies would be great but I've missed my window
- Falling asleep holding someone, waking up hours later and discovering you're still clinging to each other
- Sharing laughs, tears, experiences, life, the ups the downs, being there for each other, for your someone
Perhaps it's just me. Perhaps it's an ideal. But think about it, are those few thoughts really that bad?
A man should be prepared to kill spiders and remove dragons
Back to the spiders and dragons theory.
In cliché world a woman seeks guy prepared to kill spiders. Definitely a cliché, but there's a little reality to it. I've been asked to
remove spiders or similar. And at the most inopportune times.
If you've not been asked for such, you will be. It'll generate a quiet laugh and something to remember years after the fact.
In fantasy world a real man removes dragons. You know - those annoying lizard-like, scaly, unnecessarily large animals that attack your castle,
your home. Anything less than defending and protecting your home, your castle, your partner, your family (within reason) is beneath a man.
The internal threat
Unfortunately in (western) society 25% - 33% of women are physically or mentally abused during their life by the very
people that have sworn to protect them from spiders and dragons - their partners.
How can that be right? How can the very person that dedicates themselves to protect someone from dragons hurt them?
There is zero excuse for physical or mental abuse. No alcohol, anger, drugs, infidelity, monetary nor any other reason can excuse a man from
attacking or threaten to attack those that he has sworn to protect less love.
You are her man, you are her friend, her partner, her knight. You protect her, you protect her from everything from spiders to dragons.
So I'm a throwback
The woman in my life is the most important person in my life. My happiness is dependent on her safety and happiness.
What's wrong with that? Why should that be so different? In what possible way should I not want to say that?
Any person in a relationship should understand their partner is their PARTNER, their equal in every aspect and the most
important person, the most important anything in their life.
Responsibilities
Do you have a girlfriend? Are you in a relationship? Are you considering moving in with your partner?
Have you considered your responsibilities? Have you thought about what a man means in a relationship?
Have you considered how you will behave around your partner? How will you protect her?
It is your responsibility you protect her from spiders, from dragons and from yourself.
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